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If we were to explore the meaning of “enabler” or “enabling” from a purely semantic perspective, we can see that it means “to make it possible for someone to do something”. Modern psychology narrows this definition down even further as...

Enabling behavior usually begins as a well-intentioned response to a loved one's struggles, whether it's emotional turmoil, addiction, or other personal challenges such as codependency. Hope, alongside guilt, fear, and love, can be a key motivator for enabling behavior. So...

This is one of those popular psychology terms that get tossed around lightly in conversations and media without much insight into the full spectrum of its meaning and the severity of repercussions this behavior can have. We might consider it...

Knowing and respecting each other’s boundaries is an essential part of any relationship, no matter if it's romantic relationships, friendships, or familial ties. In romantic relationships, being “a couple” isn’t just about getting to know each other, it’s also about...

Emotional boundaries in a relationship are one of the most challenging yet most rewarding skills we can develop as recovering people-pleasers. They give us the ability to recognize the feelings of our partners and loved ones without experiencing them as...

Keeping personal boundaries is essential for our mental wellbeing. They’re an innate defense mechanism that keeps us out of harm’s way from individuals keen on exploiting our lack of boundaries, attempting to twist our essence into ways that are often...

Picture yourself building a fence around your home and ask yourself: “Why am I doing this?” The answer is obvious. In the real world, fences serve to keep unwanted visitors out, thereby protecting you and your property. Now, we can...

Imagine having a nice backyard, where you want to plant several fruit trees. If you go ahead and plant them right next to each other, with very little space in between, a few seedlings will probably thrive, at least in...